The expression "a personal relationship with the Lord" is often well meant by Christians. By that we want to point to the fact that our relationship with God is something personal that demands your heart. To be a Christian is not a philosophy or a code of conduct. No, to be a Christian means that the core of your being is seized upon and that there is a wonderful, intimate and real relationship between you and God. That is kindergarten categesis, you would think. As long as our children catch this, as long as this is engraved onto their hearts, everything is okay. Catechesis with all its dogma and doctrines can so easily only hinder this process. Personal relationship, personal relationship, personal relationship - that's all that matters. Thus saith postmodern categesis, Postmodern Cats 101, 201 and 301.
But don't the Heidelberg Cats (Heidelberg Categism) have an answer to this? They do, but apparently people won't listen any more. Perhaps we the reformed are to blame for that. Often we serve up the HC in such rationalistic dry colours and are as abstract and existentially poor as possible - nearly an unforgivable sin if you take into account the lively commentaries on the Cats available today. However, it is said that reformed theologian Abraham Kuyper could hold children spellbound on the tip of their chairs when he catechized them. The fishermen of his congregation even took his commentary on the HC, E Voto Dordraceno, with them to sea during the week.
I want to expose myself with a statement. If you don't make an effort to portray the truth of the H-Cats with passion and colour, or at least within a context of love, warmth and security - and here I am ready to hang for this- rather leave it alone. Rather let an Arminian who believes the Bible lead the little ones with fire to the throne of grace than let them become part of the frozen chosen.